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Mental health and wellbeing: Is it cool to talk about?

Gary Seath 1 month ago

Media Mental Health

Mental health and wellbeing: Is it cool to talk about?

Gillian Gray, Your Mind Matters Wellbeing Worker for Forces Children Scotland, has written a piece, titled ‘Mental Health and Wellbeing: Is it cool to talk about?’.

For World Mental Health Day, I want to open up the conversation on mental health for young people and their families, to help break apart the stigma that still surrounds mental health and wellbeing.

As a mental health and wellbeing worker, I support children and young people across the West of Scotland by talking to them about how they feel and helping them to learn and practice a variety of techniques and strategies that can help towards feeling better.

During their support, I often encourage young people to seek support from others who they trust, whether that be teachers, family members or their peers. When it comes to the latter, it seems that for some young people talking about their emotions comes naturally, but this isn’t the same for everyone.

For others, the assumption that being cool at school means hiding your emotions, seems to remain strong.

Giving them praise where its due, young people are talking about mental health much more than has been seen (or heard) in previous generations; however, it is evident that some pressure still exists for young people who fear their image in school could be impacted by talking about and seeking support for their mental wellbeing.

I want to challenge this notion, as for both children and adults, talking about how we feel is widely recognised as something that is beneficial to our wellbeing. Talking openly allows us to access support, reduces feelings of loneliness and isolation as well as helping to build more meaningful relationships with others.

How do we make talking about our mental health cool?

My top tips for young people:

  • Start the conversation. Remember that everyone has mental health and by starting the conversation, you might be able to help others feel comfortable to talk about their mental health too. It only takes one person to start a chain-reaction.
  • Just listen. Most often when people want to talk about their mental health, they don’t need answers or a solution. Having a safe space to talk and just be listened to can help. If you feel that your friend might need some more support, you can recommend they speak to a parent, teacher or their GP.
  • Be trustworthy. Mental health is something that people talk about with the people they trust, if someone tells you how they feel then try to keep that information to yourself. If you are worried, share your concerns with a trusted adult.
  • Don’t entertain gossip. If you hear people talking about others, remain uninterested. Rumours and gossip stop instantly when people stop listening and sharing.

My top tips for parents and carers to encourage an open conversation about mental health with your young person:

  • Start the conversation using open questions. For example, you could ask “How are you feeling?” or “What is on your mind?”.
  • Be prepared to just listen. Sometimes young people want to be heard but might not be ready for a solution, or for you to “fix” their problem. If you are unsure, you could ask: “would you prefer comfort or a solution?”
  • Consider your surroundings. The best place for conversations about mental health is in a private space. Try to avoid high-traffic areas at home where siblings could overhear or in public.
  • Limit eye contact. For some young people, talking while taking part in an activity or while in the car can be more comfortable as it reduces feelings of pressure, and may encourage them to speak more openly
  • Remember, small problems can come with big feelings. Sometimes children and young people’s problems can seem small when looking at the bigger picture, but they might feel big to them. This is especially important for parents of younger children.

Find out more about Forces Children Scotland’s Your Mind Matters Digital Mental Health and Wellbeing Hub.

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